I agree with so much of this (and candidly, dealing with some of this myself.) Although, it feels impossible to win. How do we balance all of it? Accept the parent who was insufficient in many ways, and yet, see beyond it understanding that their starting point did not have the foundation for love and care that we now, as a culture, have come to hold as the standard in parent + child relationships? This whole piece and sentiment, regardless, has a hold on me because you strike the chord of truth in culture, parent + child relationships, and how we navigate this as a human being and child ourselves.
"We are currently allergic to not only feeling shameful but also hesitant to engage in shaming tactics against anyone, even if it’s justified. Usually, it’s the people who live shameful lives who advocate for its eradication, claiming that its existence is oppressive to our society rather than what helps to keep it in order. The worst among us hide their immorality while demanding that if someone like themselves is exposed, we should avoid treating them with disdain."
Wow wow wow. This piece specifically...
I agree with so much of this (and candidly, dealing with some of this myself.) Although, it feels impossible to win. How do we balance all of it? Accept the parent who was insufficient in many ways, and yet, see beyond it understanding that their starting point did not have the foundation for love and care that we now, as a culture, have come to hold as the standard in parent + child relationships? This whole piece and sentiment, regardless, has a hold on me because you strike the chord of truth in culture, parent + child relationships, and how we navigate this as a human being and child ourselves.
"We are currently allergic to not only feeling shameful but also hesitant to engage in shaming tactics against anyone, even if it’s justified. Usually, it’s the people who live shameful lives who advocate for its eradication, claiming that its existence is oppressive to our society rather than what helps to keep it in order. The worst among us hide their immorality while demanding that if someone like themselves is exposed, we should avoid treating them with disdain."
I've read the book. It has a lot to say that people need to read.
Is it possible for a huge segment of America to completely misunderstand issues of race and parenthood? Yes. Read the book.
Wow, that is so powerful. Thank you. I got your book and can’t wait to read it cover to cover.